Here are some criteria that can help you to find out if you yourself are a girlfag or a guydyke.
If you have checked multiple statements, you may be a girlfag or a guydyke.
However, don’t forget that there are also big differences among girlfags and guydykes. If you are still unsure, read some coming-out stories – maybe you can identify with someone’s story better than with these statements.
Am I a girlfag?
- You are (more or less) a woman and often fall in love with gay men.
- In your relationships with heterosexual men, you often felt that something was missing.
- You wish that a potential partner would appreciate your masculine aspects.
- You dream of a male partner who desires and loves you as a man.
- You’d rather have a platonic relationship with a gay man than a sexual one with a heterosexual man.
- You can imagine yourself in a polyamorous relationship with a gay/bisexual couple.
- When it comes to relationships and sex, you often imagine being a man.
- Your sexual fantasies are from the point of view of a man.
- You have the feeling that you see and desire men with a “gay gaze”.
- You like Yaoi, Boys’ Love, Slash Fiction or M/M porn.
- You are interested in sexual practices associated with gay sex, like pegging/BOB (Bend over Boyfriend).
- You like to take the active, male-connoted role in bed.
- You are rather passive in bed, but you identify more with passive men than women.
- You feel a strong sense of belonging to gay communities.
- You want to be more masculine or would like to look like a feminine man.
- If there was a magic lever you could pull, you would be a gay man.
Am I a guydyke?
- You are (more or less) a man and often fall in love with lesbian women.
- In your relationships with heterosexual women, you had to play a masculine role that didn’t suit your personality.
- You wish that a potential partner would appreciate your feminine aspects.
- You dream of a female partner who desires and loves you as a woman.
- You’d rather have a platonic relationship with a lesbian than a sexual one with a heterosexual woman.
- You can imagine yourself in a polyamorous relationship with a lesbian/bisexual couple.
- When it comes to relationships and sex, you often imagine being a woman.
- Your sexual fantasies are from the point of view of a woman.
- You have the feeling that you see and desire women with a “lesbian gaze”.
- You have lesbian fantasies.
- You are interested in sexual practices associated with lesbian sex.
- You would rather take the passive, female-connoted role in bed.
- You are more active in bed, but identify more with active women than men.
- You feel a strong sense of belonging to lesbian communities.
- You want to look more feminine or would like to look like a masculine or butch woman.
- If there was a magic lever you could pull, you would be a lesbian.